Who Are You Wasting Your Time On?

Face it; if you are with the wrong person, then you’re just with the wrong person. Surely you can long for them, desire them, love them, admire, adore them, and genuinely want them, but if they’re not the one for you, nothing you do will make it work. Amazing how people will go through hell trying to save a bad relationship from ending, unfortunately. Isn't time to accept the fact that--when it’s over, it’s over. Yes, starting over isn't always easy, as a matter of fact, it's hard work, but wouldn't you rather work on moving on than waste time on an unfortunate situation. People aren’t discouraged about relationships because of the stress they cause, it’s more so because they don’t know how to recognize when they’re wasting their time. There comes a time when you have to stop thinking you can teach people lessons they don’t want to learn. Stop being one of those people who will continue to have the same arguments over and over again just for the sake of looking like they care, not for the purpose of changing. How about paying attention to the times where a person’s intentions fail to catch up to their actions. Don’t fall for that “this is what I’m used to” excuse because people change when they want to change, and it’s as simple as that. Don’t mistake a desire to make you happy with a plan to change. The reality is, is that some people are great at pacifying a situation but horrible at actually fixing the issue. The ability to accept, appreciate, and understand the truth is a priceless virtue. Few people actually know what they want, so they use people to get by or simply because they don't want to feel alone, or rejected. Then there are many who will just take whatever they can get. It’s easy to set your standards high on the good days, but when you’re discouraged and tired, find the strength to have what it takes not to settle. You cannot change a person’s feelings; it’s a waste of time trying to. If the situation starts wrong, it will most likely end wrong. Stop signing up for disappointment and then get mad when you get it.